Why can’t some people see the truth?

in Something to giveHarry Sanburn, played by Jack Nicholson, defends his position by saying: “I have always told you a copy of the truth.”

The other side of this complex relationship is Erica Barry, which Diane Keaton plays, who does not intend to allow him to move away easily: “I did not know that the truth had versions,” she says.

Although it may be difficult to wrap your mind around him, some people face a problem in seeing it and dealing with the truth. We see this in a microcosm of relationships, but also in Macrocosm from business and policy. But what are the basic dynamics in playing when someone seems to live in contrast to an easily proven fact?

The old question continues

The truth is the truth. Facts facts. right?

Not everyone. What is believed to be wrong, false, misunderstanding, distortion, stupidity, and even Deception Or the lying raises the question: How can some individuals be sure of their point of view that they insist that their view is the only precise and constantly refuses any information that is wrong?

Visions of developmental psychology

Children are not born with cognitive accuracy. This skill develops over time and is based on a number of qualities related to healthy emotional adaptation. Children become logical over time. The accuracy of perception It involves both perception and interpretation.

For example, when he loses a child’s pencil, he may think he is opinion Someone takes the pencil from the office. In fact, no one took the pencil. He set out from the office and fell from view. This is an example on Understanding. But there are cases in it imagine Frank, while explanation inaccurate. For example, when a dog bark hears, you may think this means that someone is in the front door. she has tangible Correctly – a bark’s verb dog. However, the child explanation The event is incorrect. The dog has barking, but not because there was a person at the door, but because it witnessed the sword race through the grass.

Over time, children improve their ability to perceive and explain accurately. Real world experiences and developing relationships both challenge and support these skills. But this development process can be disabled with a number of things; shockThe tragedy, ill -treatment and/or turbulent upbringing can generally prevent the development of microscopic processing skills, causing life problems with both perception and interpretation of information.

Common structural restrictions for those with cognitive accuracy

These unhealthy cognitive skills are exposed to the ability to see the truth and benefit from it.

Hana tried to a new dress and showed her to her husband. When asked about his opinion, he said: “This color is not my favorite.” Hana was angry. “You think I look fat.” This was followed by an argument about what he said in exchange for what I heard, and whether or not his eyes rolled.

Many of these palaces depend on the emotional restrictions that grow from flaws in a personality building.

Possible structural defects

Emotional need: People often think that someone is “in need” that he needs to agree with others. In this case, the emotional need indicates Unpaid emotional needs that can interfere with cognitive precision. The emotional needs of a person can be so strong and overwhelming that it “needs” to see the world in a certain way, which draws an accurate perception and interpretation. In some sense, their needs overcome perceptionAnd accuracy is lost in this process.

Example: Matthew to treat Elizabeth started for the first time, she talked about her mother as “a little difficult”, and she reduced that statement insisting that she is “goodwill”. It was often used as “not so bad”. This was the history of her family present in all her sessions at the beginning, but over time, she realized that she reduced her mother’s difficulties, the misfortune of her mother’s actions as well as influencing her as a child. You could not literally see the problem or its extent.

poor Self -concept: The concept of the poor self can lie behind the wrong perception. A person who suffers from a poor self -concept needs to go up to his point of view, which indicates that it is right, even superior. Any team threatens. For them, they Road the road, they the offer the Correct offer.

Example: Lyon was handsome and smart, but he was known. Gifted in mathematics and physics, he believed that he was better than his peers and was not tolerant of those who did not agree with him. Many other students have similar skill levels, but he did not see and could not appreciate their talents. Monitor the layer and put the efforts of others when they spoke. His self -perception was inflated and inaccurate.

The need for external verification: Emotional hunger can interfere with cognitive accuracy, and in addition, it represents challenges to relationships. These individuals emotionally empty that they have almost no need to verify health; Therefore, they tend to adopt the opinions of people who like, instead of forming them. When others do not share their view of the facts, they tend to feel threat. Their need weakens their cognitive abilities and often translates into an accurate view of important things for them.

For example: Heather was a fan and very suitable leader. Silvia was the main fan and captain of the team. Heather made Silvia’s views about the best men in school and the most patterns. When her colleagues did not agree to her views, she became angry and refused. She was not aware of the effect of Silvia on her thinking.

Health cognitive treatment

When a person has a healthy cognitive accuracy, their emotional needs do not interrupt or affect his perceptions. They have sufficient emotional strength to withstand injury or insult. They do not need to see things in a certain way to support them Self -respect.

Flexibility is common for health cognitive treatment. The accurate individuals tend to rely on information and investigation cooperation To verify the truth. They realize bias and prejudiceOpen to different views, and ready to give up that their point of view may not be correct.

Cognitive careful people tend to show careful thinking, and they are not vulnerable to early conclusions, bias or blame. Such thinking appears in studied comments like: “This is the way it looks like”, or “so I saw it at that time.” They call other views: “How is he looking for you?”

As a group, those who have good cognitive skills tend to be emotionally organized. Upon discomfort, they are not subject to poor perception or misuse of events or procedures. Feelings do not easily affect their cognitive skills. Treatment skills are still fixed in the face of distress.

Example: On vacation in a foreign country, Jin returned to her room to find her earrings missing. Her first thinking went to the other person who entered the room: the home of the house. But before working on this idea, she conducted a comprehensive research. She asked her colleague in the room auxiliary. She reviewed her position, then she remembered that she had been placed in a previous occasion. Then Jin started searching for alternative interpretations.

Signs of healthy search for the truth

• Weight of the positives and negatives of every concerned fact
• Searching for research or advice experts on disputed topics
• Conducting an investigation of facts and considering other possibilities, interpretations and interpretations
• Preserving an open mind about criticism, confrontation and difference in perspective
• Fixed proof Emotional organization In the face of controversy
• Various views
• Resistance to interaction with criticism or difference
• Verify the perception and interpretation of the individual

The value of cognitive accuracy

For mature adults, the ability to decode, accept, and appreciate the truth is a critical skill. The restrictions of emotional maturity are often based on a structural defect in the character a deficit here. These restrictions are often associated with personal disorders Narcissism In particular, I discuss in my book, Narcissism of Childhood: Strategies for raising non -selfish, uninvited, and emotional children. Whatever the primary reason, it is an effort worthy of cultivating skills in this field. Cognition and careful interpretation contribute to healthy relationships, good work and civilized society.