When separation masks offending Psychology today

In this post, I will explore the main therapeutic principles to assess the separation of the justified or unjustified family. Some naming this “alienation”; However, as attached-The therapist focuses, the best use of the term “broken attachment” to determine how and why the separation occurs. As graduates, we are trained to verify our customers ’views, and separation is a legitimate response to the previous abuse. However, what if the separation is the result of manipulation? What if the customer is forced to believe false accounts of a family member or the entire family? What if the aggressor had broken intentionally attaching to the preventive father (health)?

As graduates, we must evaluate forced control if we want to direct our customers towards obtaining their own staff and ensuring that customers can keep relationships with loved family members and supporters and separate from abusive relationships.

Forced control is a pattern of behavior in which one person and domination are practiced over another (Stark, 2007). It is the basis of abuse. Within the family system, forced control causes harm to both adults and children. It can also be attached to external influences (such as power, sects, institutions, and organizations).

I have worked with parents who are sad to lose a relationship with a child who had a loving association. Many of these children have been colored by one of the abusive parents of belief in a false narration of their preventive father. You have also supported adult young people who were affected by individuals outside their families in ways that lead them to reduce or cut contact with their loved ones.

The realization of forced control is difficult, because physical violence is not a distinctive feature. Often at first, the aggressors depend on psychological tactics such as TamperingAnd manipulation, intimidation and isolation to control their victim. This process of grooming cuts the victims of their independence.

Often “the aggressors appear” as if it is Charles – a wolf in sheep clothes – which makes their abusive tactics even difficult for the therapists. They take advantage of the features of most victims (such as Compatibility and Conscience). Children are especially vulnerable to this manipulation, because their instinct to satisfy adults – especially a parent – is deeply linked to their sense of safety and survival.

In “Partnership”, when the aggressors can no longer maintain control through psychological tactics, they often rise to other forms of abuse (including physical, sexualFinancial and legal assault). And in families with children, the aggressors often make the children for more control. These experiences alone may be implanted Fearful In the child, which puts the basis for the application. The aggressors often contradict the parents and make the child in the belief that the preventive parent is unsafe, unstable or unstable. This may also lead to indoctrination. The final intention of the attacker is to break the link between the child and the protective father.

When forced control is practiced by individuals outside the family, the effect is equally destroyed. Family members often struggle to understand separation and/or get to know the source, but they are unable to help their child understand the extent of indoctrination.

Looking at Maya. Her parents absolute When she was twelve years old, years after her father’s verbal treatment of her mother. Before divorce, Maya was struggling with her depression And self -harm. Together, her parents facilitated intervention, including hospitalization and continuous to treat. But after her mother applied for divorce, Maya’s father began convincing Maya that her mother had organized the intervention. The behavior of Maya’s mother is dramatic. Maya, the weak, began to agree with her father’s narration and eventually moved with her, and cut off her mother. Maya’s father used forced control to break a harmful manner between Maya and her mother. He tampered with Maya to serve his own agenda (that is, to harm her mother who was trying to protect Maya).

Evaluation of forced control in the dynamics of the relationship

Therapists must evaluate whether the family separation is due to forced control. Unless we exclude the accuracy shock The experiences that prompted the customer to fear legally from the abusive parent, or to enhance the customer’s wrong list about one of the preventive parents. Without appropriate intervention, our customers may continue to live in reality.

Is justification justified or not? Scenario

• The justified justification: The customer who has suffered from ill-treatment at home-whether he was directed to themselves or among their parents-may participate in behaviors suitable for self-protection (for example, refusing or reducing contact with the aggressor).

• Unjustified separation: The agent who was colored to believe that one of the preventive parents or the entire family system is not safe, not trustworthy or unstable may refuse or reduce contact with this person or the entire family. Even if the customer does not believe that one of the preventive parents is insecure, unstable or unstable, they may still refuse or reduce contact due to the fear of revenge or rejection by the aggressor.

Evaluation of separation on the basis of forced control

When there is separation, therapists must assess the signs of forced control. Likewise, when the customer is stopped from the entire family system, we must determine whether the external effects have caused forced control and teaching the customer against their families. We must inquire about all important relationships: both parents, intimate partners and external influences.

We must take seriously any documented date of violence. Reducing the risks to the minimum customer agents, which leads to the belief that abuse within the family system has nothing to do with their relationships with family members. (Children who have often indoctrated reduce violence, even when they personally test it.)

In addition, we must evaluate the following:

• Inequality in the parenting relationship. One of the parents makes major decisions without consulting the other, like the child educationOr health care, extracurricular activities or daily issues. Or the other father (the victim) may bear the basic responsibility for the family and children, with a little support from his wife.
• Psychological abuse. One of the parents has a pattern of communication with the other father (the victim) who explains the decreasing behaviors, such as light of gas, manipulation, intimidation, and verbal attacks. Isolation and threats and Chase Maybe he was present. This attack may be intermittent with love and affection.
• Children’s weapon. A parent, who has more power in the relationship, is used systematically as tools for control and treatment against the protective parent. While these weapons can appear publicly through direct threats or explicit demands, it works more common through serious and accurate tactics that gradually reveal over time.
• Financial abuse. One of the parents uses financial resources to control the other by restricting access to financing, creating dependency, or asking the other parent to contribute uneven in the family.
• Legal abuse. Parents’ files are trivial to contempt, create unreasonable demands, make false accusations, and/or use custody procedures to prolong legal battles and exercise control.

As the healers, our role is to ensure that our customers have an agency in their lives. Our training includes checking our customer experiences; However, in cases of forced control, this may confirm the narration of a false agent. We must help our customers rediscover the reality of their reality. This process may include working to reconcile relationships with loved family members and reform them with customers also helping to separate from the dynamics of harmful or abusive family.