The intimate relationship: the “new uterus” of our development

As a young father, my wife truly attacked – on many occasions – for our failure to apply the agreed “time plan” to condens our children when they broke the rules. Often, I reduced their misconduct or outstanding with excessive indulgence because I did not intend to intentionally mastered the doubtful art of “disciplinary caution” that there was a little logical basis, if any, can be defended.

But with the weight of my wife’s criticism, I turned inside in search of an explanation for the parents’ agreement,.

Huge doses of self -examination, each of which are accompanied embarrassmentSoon, the moment of the Epiphany, as the interpretation that I asked for mind was as if he was waiting impatiently to be aware of it: I was simply afraid to appear “means” in the eyes of our children and thus less loved.

Then, like a red laser point that determines its goal, I followed my fears for many painful childhood Accidents when I thought my misconduct had been overwhelmed, which made me wonder about the love my parents felt for me. For my little mind, I felt these incidents shock.

The intimate relationship is tirelessly

By calling attention For the wrong “disciplinary”, my wife played a decisive role, a special feature of the intimate relationship. I did her role to help “raise” my country Fearful-Take the lack of parents so that my country is weak It was revealed, displayed. What made me deal with my consent with my wife was these painful issues that were not resolved from a distant past that took a giant leap forward in my present, which led to his pollution.

I was, in fact, an absent figure when I fell to me to impose punitive consequences after our children’s misconduct. Difficult but useful reactions–IntimacyShedding light onThe clear hole lit up in my uneven emotional development. Once again, a defect has been revealed on my entire family. Of course, I was supposed to take responsibility for “filling” this hole.

The result of this disturbing personal revelation came with a small group of unpleasant reactions, whose boss was the fear of losing my children’s affection. But I will have to withstand the bite of these feelings, and most importantly, to learn from their source, if I will benefit well from this newly disclosed personal data to reform myself and increase my growth. Moreover, by doing this, I can raise my wife and children from the negative impact of this unfortunate imbalance in my country Parents and motherhood.

Virtual MRI

Imagine your closest and most intimate relationship as if she was wiping your psychological, such as MRI, and examining your deepest characteristics and characteristics of what has been developed in you and what has not yet been developed. Now, think about this as a Switch From our closest relationships. It may even be said that it is the “function” of the intimate relationship to expose our difficult sites, and the non -burned parts of ourselves that still need more improvement.

Full emotional development

The intimate relationship has a supernatural talent to cast a bright light and knowledge of our personal faults. It “highlights the low lights” precisely and effectively as there may be no other or less complex relationship. Given, the intimate relationship then becomes an indispensable means to enhance our emotional growth, or evidence of what is still to be developed, renewed or added to our personality to help complete it, however, complete development may be defined.

Now, consider a relevant question: Is our full psychological maturity possible without the strict personal disclosure obtained from our closest relationships that can direct the way to our improvement?

In my case, I needed to solve my childhood problems and take a necessary step forward towards emotional maturity instead of leaving “backwardness” without treatment and passed on my wife and my unworthy children, and thus my relationships with my wife and believe in developing my children.

What do your relationships reveal closer to you?