Middle -aged: How to decode menopause symptoms

Some women intervene menopause Or menopause with a passing awareness only that something changes. Others are known immediately. They notice that the pain of the joint that seems to rotate across the body without a clear or amazed reason from a wave of heat at 2:00 am, and the shelling of the heart and sheets sunken. I know that these symptoms are closely and how arthritis can affect the mood, as I cannot currently exercise the way I want and enjoy them. For many, it doesn’t look like a nice transfer – it looks like an account. For those who already carry an invisible pregnancy from Providing careand commandAnd Emotional workThese hormonal disorders often give balance.

Scroll Social media Recently, I found myself nod to publish after its publication in “We are not interested”, which was created by Melanie Sanders. Despite what the name suggests, the club is not related to indifference. It is about rejection. He refused to continue homogeneous our edges to make others comfortable. He refused to ignore body signals. Refusing to make a copy of the force denies exhaustion, irritation or tears. In short, it is a rebellion against excessive performance, banter And joint exhaustion. The comments tell a deeper story: this is not only about the symptoms. It comes to what is revealed when the body stops cooperating with old confrontation strategies.

What happens when the mask cracks

The average age of menopause in the United States is 51, but physical, cognitive and emotional transformations of menopause often begin years ago. Estrogen Progesterone turns violently, which disrupts everything from sleep cycles to memory To Mood Organization (Nelson, 2008). But for many women who fit, physical discomfort and sudden collapse of emotional endurance collide and create a new version of themselves. Where they tolerated small irritation, they now feel anger. Where they were working before through fatigue, they now reached the wall. Where they once expected the needs of others smoothly, they are now forgetting a birthday, absent from the meeting, or canceling dinner plans without Guilt or apology.

From a psychological perspective, Middle age Often it represents a transformation in emotional tolerance. The same patterns that felt a sustainable day, such as excessive performance, satisfying people, and Perfection Seek, start with feathers. For many women, this transformation is not careful. A 2017 brain photography study found that oceanic women and menopause are showing early changes from nervous biology that reflects Endocrine Mosconi et al., 2017. These transformations affect the brain areas involved in memory, regulation and emotional treatment. This means that the changes that many women feel in their ability to push, tolerate or suppress it may be biological. The interface begins and what is below to speak more urgently, and for the first time in years, many women begin to hear this.

But this is the question that still exists: Why does it require the full nerve glands revolution for women to start living with their own conditions?

The cost of OK

Many women I work with Training Reaching this stage with a deep feeling of confusion. They were so qualified and relied on so much that they had no space to ask themselves about what they really wanted. They know how to fulfill the final dates, represents logistics services, and they carry the emotional weight of their families, but they often feel that they are not sure how to take care of themselves outside the small windows – sculpting, moisturizing, movement, and a quiet symptom. And when the body begins to send signals with a louder voice, such as numbness, pain and nausea, MigrainesAnd panicThey often feel betrayal.

This is exactly what I felt for me. When the swollen joints started, I didn’t think “menopause”, I thought I was doing something wrong. The fingers brought swollen and joint pain to the doctor’s office, just to tell you to change how to write and sit on my office. When I went to a gynecologist and mentioned how the inflammation revolves around my joints and creates so painful that he wakes up at night, I was told that menopause could not have been the osteoporosis. Every answer followed my confidence in my physical signs. This was not until I called with other women-my sisters, my agents, their peers, and their friends who share the texts late at night-I realized the prevalence of this type of medical Tampering It was. The symptoms were real. The confusion was real. The silence surrounding it made everything feel lonely from what it was to be. (And let us be honest, I felt very low levels of estrogen as if it were a scientific “I told you” to my doctors.)

But the body, as always, is honest. Do not lie. When hormones turn, they stop collusion with excessive work. He refuses to continue to pretend everything is fine. Instead of seeing this stage as a collapse, we may start seeing it as a gate: a gateway that forces us to reassess parts of us identity It was built on social survival, and what are the parts we want to continue.

Psychologist Mary Bembiri, in her work with middle -aged women, refers to this stage as a developmental passage and one calls women to a deeper type of integrity (Pipher, 2019). But a lot of navigation without the road map. There is no official approach to how to manage self -creativity years, and there is no performance review to abandon the roles that are no longer appropriate.

We should not burn to wake up

Social programs that women inherit about providing care and efficiency do not disappear in middle age; They only stop being imprisoned. By the time a woman deals with the menopause period, she may also manage a teenager“Emotional emotion, mobility in the pressure of the workplace, or the care of the elderly parents. Although some of this work is visible, many of it is not – especially the pre -emptive type. Research on emotional work still shows that women take an impatient share of emotional management in both their families and their work places (Hochschild & Machung, 2012). The result is what the psychologists call“ cognitive pregnancy ” And it is to save a fixed tab that increases pressure It is exhausted Executive performance over time.

In this context, menopause reaches a breakdown point and a collapse point. The corpse, tired of repression, begins to scream. What appears is a kind of unrecognized colon in fact that many women had not needed. They stop explaining themselves. They stop softening all. They start asking more difficult questions, such as: What are the parts of my life that was built on the copy of another person? What seems to be stopping everyone’s comfort?

These are the questions that make up the second half of life and create a turning point for many.

Provide space for what is real

“We do not care about a club” hesitates because it calls it something that has been hidden in the sight of the horizon: the liberation of the middle age begins to abandon the exhausting effort to be digested. But it should not take a complete hormonal transformation to get there. We can build a different relationship with our bodies and bodies border Earlier in life.

This begins by normalizing what women already feel. Fatigue, irritation, excessive sensitivity, Brain fogthe anger. These are the physiological facts with layers at the head of decades of emotional work. And when women stop OK, they start to re -introduce their lives honestly. I remember the first time that I publicly published about my arguments and the number of women who heard from them who suffer from that. The medical system does not speak clearly about this semester, and then we left with the influencers who marketed menopause and cares about selling us more than research and data.

As a psychiatrist, I think this transition deserves more than jokes and signs. It is worth supported by the research, shockInformed care, and emotional society. But until these systems are completely in place, there is something that cannot be denied by a woman to name what hurts me, He laughs On this online theme with thousands of others, and decided – maybe the first time in her life – to stop contraction for anyone.