It is not enough to lose each other to fix the relationship

Time far has a way to soften raw edges.

It puts us on our best behavior, reorganizes our emotions, reference to the spark that we felt when we met for the first time – before the differences, before the ongoing defense, before the lost anniversary, painful words, and resentment.

Absence does not make the heart grow. It makes us forget, though in short, the reasons that we retreated in the first place.

When we meet, it seems to be a renewal. It stands out with a ball that highlights our relationship in our minds – He laughedContact, tenderness.

We see each other through a lens Hanin for the past Longing, which excels for moments on conflicts and disappointment.

We believe, maybe naively, this time will be different.

This love alone, which has been redirect, will be enough to fix what has been broken.

But the thing is, everything is still there. Right forgiving Smiles and warm embrace. Wounds that have not been resolved. Unnamed dissatisfaction. The patterns that pushed us to their side in the first place.

And so it begins again.

The second round.

The honeymoon stage returns, but this time with a hidden doubt.

Then the perception comes: nothing has changed. The same apparent arguments. The same disappointments crawl again. Slowly, warmth fades, and replaces it again with frustration.

Some time passes. Then we go to another round, and another, trapped in a cycle that looks like a loop than progress.

Why do we continue to return?

The cycle of separation and success is familiar to many husbands. Part of his attractiveness is the hope that the place and time will create a shift.

But the real change does not come from absence alone-it comes from conscious effort, self-awareness, and the desire to address root issues face to face.

When love and affection are given inconsistent, the bond can feel stronger – such an unpredictable reward that remains an emotional drug addict.

The highlands feel euphoria, which makes their lowest levels look like temporary setbacks instead of signs of deeper incompatibility.

The difference between longing and recovery

Someone can create a sense of urgency to reconnect, but it is not automatically growing. We mistake longing in healing, believing that the severity of each other’s loss is evidence of love Steadfastness.

But love is not only about losing someone when it disappears – it is about appearing, communicating and growing together when it is present.

So, how can we break the cycle?

It starts to ask difficult questions: Did we really deal with what prompted us somewhat, or are we simply riding a wave of nostalgia?

Did we work to change our patterns, or are we just hoped that love will only fix things?

Are we in love with a person, or with the idea of ​​those before things are complicated?

Freeing from the episode requires more than longing. It requires recognition, accountability and work.

Because love should not be a role in a role – it must be a way forward, and not a cycle that continues to return to the same place.