How Low Self-Worth Affects Your Life Quietly

The struggle to feel good enough can both be a lifelong struggle and also something you tend to forget on a daily conscious level. So instead of being aware of how low you are Self esteem Over your life, you may be vulnerable to moving from one self-esteem crisis to another. This is so exhausting and all-consuming, that you may lose sight of how your self-esteem may be what is perpetuating your unhappiness.

Feelings like you’re not good enough, like you don’t measure up or don’t belong, or that you need to fool people into thinking you’re enough all define low self-worth. For most people, these types of thoughts start childhood It eventually becomes a default mental state. You may not be aware of these thoughts while they are happening, but they have a great deal of power and contribute to your distress.

Often, people with low self-esteem look like they have it all together on the outside while on the inside they quietly feel that the ground beneath them is shifting. As a means of achieving stability, they may obsessively try to keep themselves and their lives under control. The inevitability of this strategy eventually giving up reinforces their feeling that they are not good enough and must be extremely vigilant to avoid the next mistake.

When you suffer from low self-esteem, you probably focus more on ways to keep striving and how to maintain tight control than on the costs of this strategy. The first step in increasing your self-worth is to evaluate how it affects the decisions you make.

How low self-worth can quietly shape your life

Here are four ways low self-worth can quietly affect your life:

Friendships: You become a drain if your goal is to keep everyone from thinking there is something wrong or bad about you. When it is nearly impossible to meet your expectations for yourself, all you will be able to see in yourself are shortcomings. After social interactions, you are left with a huge gap. The gap could be comparing yourself to others, feeling judged by others, or second-guessing what you said and did. All of this makes you less enthusiastic about your friends or less able to reap the psychological benefits of having close people in your life. Rewards such as benefits of health and longevity, connection, shared joy, and meaning
Romantic relationships: When you’re in a close romantic relationship, it’s almost normal to project your fears onto your partner. If you have low self-esteem, you may question and criticize them. He or she may feel as if he or she can never achieve what you want or need. Or you may find yourself mired in self-doubt to the point that your partner has to constantly reassure you, or he or she may feel resentful that the relationship revolves so much around your needs. Alternatively, you may hide your true self even from this person so that the relationship feels empty or one-sided, where your needs are not met.
Professional life: Low self-worth in the professional field may mean that you are consumed with self-doubt. You may back away from challenges and feel as though you are not living up to your potential or alternatively have a kind of frenetic energy to prove yourself and do more and more until there is little left for yourself. You may be successful, but a lot of that is based on it anxiety And hypervigilance makes it difficult to feel safe and secure in your success.
Your sense of joy: When your mindset is to evaluate your worth based on your output, the process of living falls behind. As a result, the wonders and gems of your life, the little moments of meaning, joy and peace, may pass through you all. You realize that there are “good things,” so to speak, in the intellectual sense, but for you Nervous system To encode good things deeply, you need to relax and have fun.

For more: see my post on How to reset the default low self value.