How can kids stop being insulted about their clothes?

A News story in the people A magazine reported on an 11-year-old girl named Chewie Daisley, who was made fun of by kids at school for wearing clothes from Target and Walmart. Her mother, Amanda, a mother of four who apparently couldn’t afford to shop at expensive stores, “learned that Choi was in the nurse’s office frequently — sometimes three times a day — with headaches and stomach aches.”

We have also been informed that “in an attempt to stop… bullyingDisley contacted school administrators…and the school now plans to pull the bullies from the classroom, get their parents involved, and launch a bullying investigation.

Those of you who follow my writing should not be surprised that involving the school against other children is often a recipe for disaster.

Fortunately, Disley appears to have avoided disaster. After the mom posted a video of Choi’s plight on TikTok, a few stores sent her gift cards, enabling her to buy more stylish clothes for her. In addition, many supportive parents wrote to her saying they had the same problem.

We’ve been told that in the past few days, the bullying problem has decreased.

Clothes have always been one of the most common targets of bullying. It upsets children, makes them hate going to school and wish they could dress better. Cash-strapped parents can’t always update their bullied children’s wardrobe, and the solution can’t be for them all to post videos on Facebook. Social media Hoping to get gift cards.

The massive campaign to eradicate bullying in schools is already a quarter of a century old, and yet not much has changed. Schools and parents still don’t know the real reason behind children’s sarcasm and how to stop it. They still believe that children get upset because they are being made fun of, when it is usually the other way around – they are being made fun of because they are getting upset.

If your child or student is being teased because their clothes come from low-end retailers, there is absolutely no reason to replace their wardrobe. All that is required is for the child to respond calmly and friendly to the children who make fun of him. Role playing is the best way to teach them to achieve this. You can use the following form.

You: What do children tell you?

child: They say my clothes are shabby.

You:Does it bother you?

child: Yes.

You: Do they do that often?

child: Yes. They say that every day.

You:Do you want them to stop?

child: Yes.

You: I will teach you why they make fun of your clothes and how to make them stop. I’m going to play a game with you. Your job is to insult my clothes, my job is to stop you. But don’t let me stop you, or you’ll win and lose.

child: Your clothes are very shabby!

You: No, it’s not!

child: yes it is! I can’t believe what she’s wearing! My mother dressed like this in the 70’s!

You: Shut up! There is nothing wrong with the way I dress!

child: Ha, ha! Are you blind? Did you look in the mirror before you left the house?

You: Yes, I looked in the mirror. There is nothing wrong with the way I dress!

child: are you kidding? That’s why you don’t have friends!

You: This is not true! I have a lot of friends!

child: Yes, all losers!

You: to stop! Leave me alone already!

You should find that the child is having a good time. After it becomes clear that they will not stop insulting, say: “I give up,” and continue as follows. I call this approach, The opposite compliment:

You: Do I make you want to stop making fun of my clothes?

child: no,

You:Wasn’t this fun?

child: Yes.

You: Can you respect me for the way I act?

child: no.

You:Do you want to be my friend if I answer this way?

child: no.

You: Of course not! I’m mad at you, and I look like an idiot. Now let’s do it again. Insult my clothes and don’t let me stop you.

child: Your clothes are very shabby!

You:You always dress so well!

child: Thanks! But you don’t!

You: no i don’t. But you do! This is one of the reasons why it is so popular.

child: This is correct! And you should dress cool too!

You: Thanks for the advice! But for some strange reason, I love fur.

child: This is strange!

You: I think it is. This is the way I am.

You should find that with this approach, the child will quickly get tired of the insulting language and perhaps have an interesting conversation with you about clothes. Then proceed as follows.

You: This way, did you want to continue insulting my clothes?

child: no.

You: Did you enjoy insulting me?

child: no.

You: Can you respect me more this way?

child: Yes.

You: Can you see yourself becoming my friend in this way, even though I wear shabby clothes?

child: Yes.

You: This is correct. Even though my clothes are shabby, you respect me more because I don’t look foolish, and you love me more because my compliments make you feel good. You see, kids don’t make fun of you because of your clothes. They do it because you get upset when they make fun of your clothes. So stop being upset, and be nice to them. You will see that it is not fun for them to insult you, and they will stop doing it after a while. They may become friendly. Try it for a couple of days and let me know how it works.

Here are some other ways you can deal with clothing insults.

He curses: Your parents are so poor that they have to shop for you at Walmart.

You:You are very lucky because you can shop in luxury stores!

He curses: It looks like you’re getting your clothes from the trash!

You:No one would ever think that about you!

Here’s a way to answer with banter By adding to their insults about you.

He curses: Your clothes are completely out of fashion!

You:If you think I’m out of style nowWait until you see me the next year!

Good luck teaching this approach to kids!