August feels magic? It may be a fear for school

I was in the target when he hit me.

Green Criola boxes. Tall chimneys of configuration notebooks. “Let’s do this, parents!” Signs cheer me at fun.

And I became crazy.

Not emotional. Do not overwhelm. Not sad. crazy.

The madness that the season of organized days loosely and less transformations ended. Crazy that my country Nervous system It was about to be exposed to the full weight of the requirements of the academic year again-narrow tables, multiple tasks, and the ongoing need to manage competing priorities. The summer may not be comfortable, but it is Less uncomfortable.

Initially, I thought I was just a stranger. But then I realized: This is Sunday. However, August. This is worse.

What is Sunday are afraid?

Sunflies is the well -known wave of dread that rolling at about 4 pm on Sunday, when the freedom of the weekend begins to slip and crawls on Monday morning. It is awaited for the structure, performance and the inability to predict that we want to stop temporarily, even if we love our jobs or have a completely careful adult routine.

Now hit it with a hundred. Stretch through school supply lists, open home emails, bus tables, new teachers, and doubt about that Anyone other Enthusiastic while you calmly guide.

This is concerns to school.

And if you are yet-shock The father does not feel heavy. It is a dangerous feeling.

In my book Parents and motherhood after the shockDescribe Shock application Casis for how a life of shock in our brains. It’s not just a file memoryIt is a complete behavioral algorithm. The trauma application works silently in the background, always scans the danger, and always tries to maintain a small, safe and predictable life. It is the part of us who believes that survival lives in a routine, and that any disruption, regardless of the extent of the natural growth, appears to be a threat.

Nothing disrupts the ability to predict like the first day of school.

Suddenly, our children in the world have come back, buses, walking the corridors, wandering around teachers, friends and strangers, and we no longer kept safe. Even if we trust in school, even if our children are fine, the shock application does not care. He only sees the risks. Inability to predict. Disability. It can warn us of multiple threats, a type of “choosing your own adventure” from the things that worry, from intermediate teachers and academic challenges to shooting at international schools and epidemics.

Thus, dread crawls.

Perfume structure

This is the background to the school of Sunday Samies. But it intimidates Sunday over the stimulants. Because for parents after the shock, the structure is not only Stagnant. It is a trigger.

may Want building. We may yearn for it. But when the school year begins, everything turns simultaneously-waking times, waking times, declines, lunch boxes, forgotten water bottles, and lost field journey shapes. It speeds up the speed, the margin of the error disappears, and we lose the ability to keep things slow and control. The trauma application is equivalent to this.

You may feel anxious. Snappy. With frustration because everyone around you seems excited for the new academic year while you were frightening it. You are not lazy, uncomfortable, or “bad in transformations”. You are one of the parents after the shock. This is what it seems to move when your mind has long learned that the inability to predict = is not ladder.

So what helps?

1. The name of what is happening.
“This is the application of shock. He is trying to keep things small and control.” Saying this loudly – even quietly for yourself – weakens the experience rather than swallowing it.

2. The schedule contraction.
Do not think about the entire semester. Just focus on arrival during the first thirty minutes of the first day. Your nervous system does not need a major plan – needs Bonding.

3. Use transition rituals.
A candle lights up after the decrease. Make the same cup of tea. It was placed on the same music. Your body does not know that it is safe to show it through repetition.

4. Give your inner child a role.
when panic Right, mention yourself: Your inner child cannot raise a child. But raising your real child can help her. Your internal child can provide some tips and insight Parents and motherhood Your children in the real world, but in the end, you can decide the actions that must be taken. Let your inner child know, you want to hear what he says, and then you will take responsibility.

Parents and motherhood is an opportunity to re -call our shock. We ask us to send our children to a larger and more chaotic world, even while our shock application pleads with smaller and safer spaces. The more our lives, the more we can heal from our shock. This does not mean that it is easy.

But this is the work. And you do it.

Even if you do it from the targeted corridor, it is stated around the pencil.

(C) Robin Coslawits, 2025