All are close (s): movement in family events without children

This summer was full of season with a quick successive series of family reunification, and road trips to visit their distant loved ones, and hosted what a friend refers to the name of “the pests of the house”. As a non -parent InvolvedI am saturated.

The indulgence that extends in family gatherings includes everyone’s children. It does not matter if children are absent or in attendance. They are still present everywhere, and they mentioned repeatedly as a major topic of conversation.

I sit largely on the margin as a witness to the importance of the family. Without my children or the living parents, I listen more than I speak. I feel like I am like dislocating the window from the clan member. It was this way for years.

Grant, it may be interesting to see how different family units interact with each other. Parents who have young children work as they do when they are at home, and they almost exclusively focused on overseeing their children’s children, entertaining and managing them. Older children occupy the lead center, with a fiery question that is raised to us; We form the lover of the lover whitening them. Some shows are charming, while I admit that others can bear or even disturb.

The sons of the teenagers gather together, and steal away from the family to share new hot games, funny Tikhak Participations, important effects that the rest of us did not hear. Parents attract them Teenager Slipping on the dinner table and demanding them to share the main achievements and events with the rest of the family. We are “Oh” on the academy and/or athlete The exploits and “Ah” on the emerging romances.

I hear many parents face a problem with adaptation when children leave the house. I know that some of the emerging adulthood stage, are looking for information to restore the social capital that have lost control, as well as friends who used to hang them in multi -family groups that were established through youth friends groups. The role of parents is, for many, an overwhelming commitment.

While we meet, it seems as if we were all overlapping together in a skillet full of corn that has not yet been placed. When the oil is heated to the temperature, one of the nucleus emerges with a story, which then flows into its explosion. Repeated this nucleus, the pop, the pop, until the pan is full of conversation extracts with a little cohesion or depth. I do not enjoy steadily Alert From popcorn.

While I get the attractiveness of the participation of family tales, oh attention Stretch quickly fades. Recycle some popcorn stories year after year, and it is a family legend that we all get to know. I don’t have much to present it in these family -focused gatherings and I usually feel like a foreigner.

In contrast, given the opportunity for individual interaction, I move well. as Intimacy Junkie, enjoy speaking in young and small groups, asking questions and presenting my own view. Community cardi reaps these small meetings, where questions are launched and the ideas are considered. Everyone has a sound and broadcasts while moving. They also listen to activity, as it is clear from their questions often.

These are the types of reactions that are more important to the vitality to my life. Among these interactions, I got friends over the decades, many that I now consider to be my chosen family. They fill the society in which it flourished.

I contacted a few during adolescence, and crossed the paths with others at work and in groups of common interests. The age of 40 to 91. Many, like me, are not fathers.

However, a sub -group has children. Some even have grandchildren. But for countless reasons, their children are rarely the subject of conversation, and they love it in this way. Some have offspring with lifelong problems do not enjoy discussion. Others have suffered from family signs and were removed from their children. Some have other interests other than Parents and motherhoodThey appreciate a space to talk about topics outside family issues.

This made me think that it may be the basis of the friendships that I enjoy has no little effect on whether we are fathers or not. Instead, this is what we choose to share and when we choose to do so. It is open to exchange discoveries and cheerful as we travel the course of life.

We are not trusted follow the paths of life that we have traveled since then childhood. Some of us remain in a position and run in the same corridor we did in high school, and it is assumed that it is more mature now than we were. Some of our paths are branched throughout the way and we explore different interests, geographically and/or jobs. But none of these tracks includes the experience of having children.

What if it is or not for children no What creates the distance between us? What if the main differences are the topics that we tend to engage in when we meet with others? What if the separation happens, not because of children, but because of the way we face life opportunities and their demands? Perhaps the point is the cultivation of advanced interests that create a meaning to us. Then we share these interests with others, who can choose to join or follow different endeavors.

We may just need more curiosity about who we are communicating with, even when their lives are organized around different priorities from our region. It is not difficult to search for other views and start a set of topics that do not include paternity and motherhood. Like those in my delicious country Friendship The circle does regularly. Even when they share popcorn with relatives.