A talisman to use when you speak to someone who talks a lot and does not listen Written by Higur Araijo July, 2025

R.It is the burden of its creation as a look that we learn to enjoy not to speak, we learn to enjoy a state of endless learning, we learn that the speech is a waste of time, we learn that understanding people is never a lot – I am that person who is greatly enthusiastic about human beings, their culture, residents, and their characteristics, especially because I spend a lot of time with the ability to listen to myself, the matter has ended with a great extent. Wait, did you say a burden there? This may not be a really burden, perhaps a gift from being introverted 100.

I thought about and created some singing to help you – and also to help me – remember that in the world, people love to talk about themselves, and this is good. If you want to grow friendships and relationships, you need to learn to listen to others. However, if, like me, this is a difficult thing to bear, you will need these phrases that you should prevent from collapse in a world in which people should hear, while you have already understood that everyone will not listen or understand you. Sometimes, it is better to be silent and listen.

“I can handle chaos because I was already organized for me.”

It is only possible to deal with the chaos of others because I organized me. I’m not in a cut, so I can welcome those who are. Not because I am a saint or a processor, but because I have a structure. Because I faced myself, I was rebuilt. Because I know where to stand. It is not blind, it is a secret power. I can handle it because I am not trying to prove anything, and I am not lost as the other person says. I am firm. These packages allow me to listen without drowning, and keep without absorption, to be present without disappearance.

“I ask a gesture of abundance: only those who outperform themselves.”

Listening to someone in a crisis requires a clear destabilization of whom you are. Only those who have already moved their emotional maze can be present to others without getting lost. When you say that you have organized your chaos, you acknowledge that you have experienced a process of self-knowledge and internal organization that now gives you an anchor in the harsh seas-without being pulled. It is not a matter of immunity from the pain of others, but about creating space inside yourself firm enough so that this pain does not invade everything. The force is specifically in this: in not having to defend yourself all the time because there is already safety inside. Listen, then, stop being a threat and become a clear, voluntary and dominant act.

“I listen because I was completed, not because I need to fulfill.”

Listening without the desire to intervene, without the need to include himself in the conversation to feel important, reveals a rare internal peace. When one does not seek to fill the gaps with or by the other person’s speech, this is a sign that there are no urgent gaps within himself. This self -sufficiency allows clean listening, without distortions, because there is no need to try to seize it. It is the opposite of listening out of need – the type that wants to get to know itself, to be noticed, to gain affection in return. Listening out of completion means all survival even when the other person collapses; It is available by choice, not necessarily. This gives lightness to listen and at the same time depth, because there is no despair in that – existence only.

“My value does not depend on what I am saying, but on what I choose to listen to.”

When the personal value is not related to the need to hear it, but to the ability to listen with structure, there is a merit. Not everyone understands that speaking is not synonymous with strength – sometimes, the real mastery lies in knowing what deserves to be heard and what does not deserve space within itself. Choosing what one listens is an emotional candidate and also a form of self -confirmation. He knows that it is not the number of spoken words that determine your existence, but the awareness that keeps silent. This separates from the idea that being a hero requires an active voice all the time – there is also the protagonist in existence that listens to the standards, without rushing to prove himself.

“I am the mirror that does not reflect – it is absorbed.”

Being a mirror that does not reflect, means stopping the reaction automatically with pain, anxiety, and deception from the other. This means listening without returning the favor, without boycotting, without putting yourself in the middle of the scene. Absorption means welcoming deeply – not to overcome yourself, but allow the other to be there, without judgment. When you listen this way, it becomes a safe area: there is no reflection that distorts, only the presence you receive. It is a listening that melts the defenses of the other, not because it agrees or keyboards, but because it does not compete for space. In this place, you do not compete for attention – you are silent as a form of support. This requires maturity, and so hard that you do not need to appear there.

“I listen because I understand that understanding is not common as they say – and I have made peace with that.”

Acceptance of this concept is rare, it is frustration and becomes an advantage. When you stop searching for this type of continuous verification, you start occupying the clear observer site. When you no longer need to explain yourself, you have a energy that left to listen to more existence and appreciation. This does not mean closing yourself – this means more intelligent choice when open. Those who do not need to understand maintaining their complexity. They keep strength. While listening to the other person reveals themselves in words, they remain complete, stable and interested. Failure, in this context, becomes protection, independence and strong silence.

“Here, I am the person who gives – because I learned not to expect from others what I only find in myself.”

Listening without expecting anything in return is a sign of emotional autonomy – not because you are satisfied with a little, but because you learned where you can really find depth. Self -organization is generated from this perception: some things, such as real understanding, vigilance or sincere acceptance, is so rare that it is expected in any interaction that frustration is only born. When this becomes clear, listening to the other becomes a clear choice, not an attempt to bargain. By giving time – time, silence, and attention – without expecting to receive him with the same measure, the person begins to control his exhaustion. So, this gesture is no longer a sacrifice: it is an emotional mastery, it knows the value of the individual and does not put it in the hands of those who do not have the structure to keep it.

“I am not talking much here because I don’t know that anyone will know what to do in this real.”

When the conversation turns into a monologue, talking less is not a sign of being silent – it is a sign of moderation. It does not give up the depth of a person who only works on the surface. Instead of trying to transfer the space as there is no real interest, you choose to keep the basics hidden. This logo helps you remember that not all silence is empty – sometimes, it is a standard. It restores dignity to the role of the listener and cuts the motivation to request validation in a place that does not contain the structure to provide support. It is the idea that maintains your safety intact while the other person only cares for himself.