The art of missing persuasion

Almost, all of my customers have shown a strong desire for others to convince others that they are right, moral, and they deserve admiration, or at least acceptance.

Their usual interpretations are why Persuasion It is important:

• investigation Goals And implement ideas
• Build relations and social support
• Impact on decisions and procedures
• Conflict solution and leadership change.

How many times does it happen in our polarized world?

A paradox look

General discourse these days is characterized by a large device trust About simple solutions to complex problems. However, no one seems to be able to persuade anyone who is already not agreed with them. This is because confidence with the implicit certainty is likely to inspire contradictory responses, if not a violent reaction. Confidence can easily be careful as care or concession. Simplification is usually interfered with Emphasizing confirmation.

The feelings of certainty are the enemy of learning because everything we know highlights what we do not know. knowledge It is the absence of doubt. Self -deception It is the suppression of doubt. Anyone is unlikely to persuade anyone.

The persuasion occurs only with positive respect. You will never convince people that you are right by making them defensive through accusations, criticism, negative descriptions, putting signs, calling names or other forms of respect. These behaviors are a biography more than revealing the descriptions of others; That is, it is loaded with expectations and biases.

The reaction episode of the frustrated merit

Behind the death of the persuasion lies in a dangerous reactions of merit and frustration. It seems that we feel that we are entitled to control what others think and what they say, and this is something we can never achieve. It seems that the frustration of the entitlements is unfair, which stimulates discontent and AngerWhich, in turn, makes persuasion less likely, resulting in more resentment and anger, making persuasion happier.

Anger and resentment promises us to attack and revenge; That is, reduce value, warning, threat, intimidation, or harm, publicly or in our heads, that is, it may be afflicted but not persuaded.

The strength of the feedback ring is, partly, as a result of the natural treatment of the brain. Mental focus exaggerates the importance. What we focus on becomes more important than we do not focus on. People focus on their own views so that they cannot see it, less tolerant, and other people. In this sense, we all became Narcissistic.

How to become narcissistic

It can happen if we read a lot on the Internet. A wide range of articles, posts and blogs unintentionally contributes to unilateral vision and weakens our ability to see other views alongside us. Signs include that this happens to us the use of hunting words such as “Tampering“Or” narcissin “, or limiting our understanding of personal and social problems of what could be appropriate for the abundant poster or registration in a political gathering or protest.

Persuasion and loss

Some people with loss become more sympathetic; Some choose discontent and revenge. It is always an option. The loss reduces the need to persuade but exaggerates the perceived need to verify health and control.

The way out of the episode

Karl Young has shown us a way out for more than a century. If he is offended by close people, it is more open. If it is patience with judicial persons, be less ruling. If you feel upset about stubborn people, be more cooperative. If you cannot stand on the boycott, you are a better listener. If you cannot take rigid people, be more flexible. If it is incited by unauthorized persons, be more respectful. If he is offended by close people, it is more open. If it is patience with judicial persons, be more curious and less judgment. If he is not tolerant of people, be nice. If you like people, be sympathetic to their loved ones.